Tuesday, November 11, 2008

What I want

Are you a man who is tired of dating the wrong woman? Do you find yourself asking the same question over and over again . . . "Where are the good women?" If so, I might be able to offer some enlightenment . As a woman of decent morals, recently separated and imparting on a new career in journalism, what better an opportunity than now for me to express what good women want and find attractive in men.

Simply stated, a good woman wants her counterpart to be a good man. A man who demonstrates decent moral values and one who demonstrates equally impressive manners is very attractive to the good woman. While looks are important, it is not uncommon for a woman to accept less than attractive appearance in lieu of the latter. Think of how many times you see a simple looking man with a gorgeous woman as his escort. You wonder to yourself, are they for real? In some cases no, but in many other cases, yes they are for real.

A good woman is a caregiver and will put the well being of her lover before herself. She expects only respect in return. The good woman needs to see by means of her man's actions that he finds her very important. He can show her this by paying attention to her in relations both sexual and social. Although you may be a fantastic lover, if you don't equal your exhibitions in bed with genuine friendship and understanding she may become insecure about the relationship.

If you pay attention to a good woman, mirror her attributes, and help compensate for her weaknesses, you should find her very much attracted and devoted to you both physically and emotionally. Women are fragile when it comes to the imbalance of the physical and emotional care, and most require this balance in order to feel good about themselves and their relationship with their man.

A good woman has a very loving heart. She wants to trust a man with her innermost thoughts and feelings. She wants a simple relationship with communication playing a vital role in the sustainability of this relationship. Communication should be as direct and uncomplicated as possible.
Although men often describe women as complex this is a common mischaracterization when it comes to defining the good women. Good women are good listeners and good communicators. If a man is truly looking for a good woman and can equal her in personality and morals, a match is not difficult to come by. Keeping the above stated in mind, a man should be able to easily pick a good woman out of the crowd with as little as a brief conversation. The following is what the man should ask himself after such an encounter.

1. Is she nice and respectful?

2. Does she demonstrate manners and common courtesy?

3. Does she demonstrate a genuine interest in me?

4. Does she appear comfortable and self confident, yet not arrogant?

If he can answer yes to all four questions, then chances are she is a good woman. Further encounters will help him identify whether or not she is the right woman for him. However, if he finds that she is more interested in her opinions and concerned with herself than him, he needs to recognize that she does not meet the criteria of a good woman. She will always look out for her interests above his. A truly good relationship between man and woman flourishes with characteristics of selflessness, respect, love and honor. Each of these characteristics is shared and spent on one another.

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