Monday, March 30, 2009

Sexual underbelly of our lives


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Fetishes can seem like the sexual underbelly of our lives. But even in
a healthy and monogamous relationship, satisfying a fetish can be
extremely rewarding, both for the person with the fetish and his or
her partner. (You can find a great definition of what, exactly, a
fetish is by visiting drsusanblock.com or wikipedia.org.)

Chances are, though, you know enough about what a fetish is, but are
more specifically concerned with one fetish in particular - your own
or that of your lover. The first thing to remember is not to be afraid
of the fetish (provided, of course, that it is not inherently
dangerous or illegal in and of itself).

Most of the fetishes I know of were formed in childhood, adolescence,
or young adulthood. One friend confides that she saw a (female) cousin
of hers spanked, a cousin on whom she had a crush, and ever since
then, spanking - either being spanked by someone or spanking someone
else - excites her. Another friend, as a youngster, spied a scout
leader bending over the trunk of her car, and developed a fetish for
what can now be referred to as the 'den mother' role play. (Note, too,
that although these fantasies were formed at an early age, neither
person is interested in children whatsoever, nor were they formed by
any inappropriate contact between adults and children. That kind of
inappropriate interest is not part of our discussion here.


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If someone
approaches you with that 'fetish' - please, pick up the phone and
contact authorities! What we are discussing here is the healthy adult
expression of personal experiences.)

Gratefully, the Internet makes it relatively easy to gather the needed
ingredients for fetish satisfaction. For uniforms of all types, start
with an auction site, like eBay.com. There you will find the perfect
outfit for most costume or uniform-related fetishes, including
scouting, cheerleading, military, law enforcement, and a host of other
accoutrements. Somewhere, someone is getting rid of a scouting or
military uniform they no longer need - and you're about to excite your
partner with an amazing outfit for a reasonable cost!

If your fetish paraphernalia requires something a bit more esoteric,
you'll want to check out a site like www.aswgt.com (Adam and Gillian's
Sensual Whips and Toys) or www.affections.com, which offer a full
complement of handcuffs, ankle cuffs, masks, whips, and other
accessories.

Of course, by their very nature, fetishes are highly personal. For
some people, simply admiring their lovers' feet or lower legs is
extremely sexy, so rather than searching online for something a bit
odd, it might simply be a matter of finding just the right toenail
polish or other accessory, as you would at footsiesbiz.com.

Most of all, relax and have fun with it.


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This fetish is the kinky,
personal side to your lover, as they have been conditioned to be
turned on by this particular object or activity. Enjoy it, in all of
its twisted glory. Treat it with a sense of joy and play, and you will
find that you, too, enjoy the fetish.