Friday, November 21, 2008

What do they do?

What is lesbian sex? What do lesbians do? Many people seem totally unable to imagine what two women could do together. As a public service, this article seeks to enlighten readers on the subject of lesbian sex. This is not meant to be prurient but simply to inform. Heterosexuals might use some of this information to enhance their own sex lives. Remember, these activities are enjoyed by different women and at different times.

Why do people seem to have so much difficulty figuring out lesbian sex? One reason might be that some people (but not most women) think that a woman must be penetrated by a penis to enjoy full sex. There are many crude comments by men about or to lesbians that allude to this false belief. This, of course, is not true.

Lesbians tend to be much more whole body sexual than do most heterosexuals. Hugging from head to toe, kissing and caressing the entire body is very common. The average time for lovemaking between lesbians is 90 minutes as opposed to 20 minutes for heterosexuals. Lesbians have more orgasms than their heterosexual sisters do, which is not surprising given that women need more time to become fully aroused but when they do they can keep going.

When people imagine lesbian sex, the most common image is that of mutual masturbation. This is never or almost never practiced. One woman may insert two or three fingers into her partner while keeping a thumb on her partner's clitoris. She moves her fingers inside her lover and her thumb on her clitoris. She may be moving against her lover's thigh.

Another practice is called tribidism and an old term for lesbians is Tribids. This is a fancy word for mutually rubbing, or grinding against each other's genitals. This can go all the way to orgasm but is most frequently part of "foreplay."

I have put "foreplay" in parenthesis because it really is not a part of lesbian sex. It is meant to warm up the partners for intercourse and since lesbians are not goal oriented while making love, the concept of "foreplay" doesn't have much meaning.

Probably the most beloved practice is oral sex. One partner concentrates on pleasuring the other and this gives her great pleasure also.

Becoming more and more common is the dildo with strap on. Dildos have been around for a long time. All archeological digs turn them up and the diary of Ann Lister, a Tom (butch) in early 19th century England mentions them. The dildo wearer inserts the dildo through a hole in the strap on and snugs it in with a ring. The strap has a base, which rubs against the wearer's clitoris thus stimulating her as she moves against her partner.

These are the most common practices of lesbian sex. The most important idea is that lesbian sex involves the whole body. While the sex is sometimes urgent and fast, most times it is slow and takes its time. Heterosexual lovers can take these tips from lesbians and enhance their own lovemaking.

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